Are you walking in self-pity? Do you have a “woe is me” attitude? Are you always wanting people to feel sorry for you to get their attention? Do you exaggerate the issues going on in your life so people can feel sorry for you and pay attention to you? I know that I have. Recently, I have been guilty of a “woe is me” attitude. Along with severe heartburn, I have been dealing with several GI issues that have required me to take prescription medications to treat the problems. I even had an endoscopy procedure done to find out the cause of the problems. With everything I am experiencing, there is no denying the discomfort I feel. However, the Lord has shown me that throughout this journey I have been walking in self-pity and feeling sorry for myself. He has shown me that I have been seeking pity from those around me because I didn’t feel well.

The problem with self-pity is that it doesn’t stop with just one incident. The more a person allows oneself to walk in self-pity, the more one seeks it and runs the risk of becoming imprisoned by it. As a Christian, walking in self-pity is dangerous because it causes us to take our eyes off God to focus on others. When we do that, I believe we make people our god, instead of our Heavenly Father. It can hinder our ability to exercise our faith in God. It is not wise to seek attention from people because one day they might give you the attention you want and the next day they may not. Only God can give us true gratification! As for me, I realized I had stop putting my illness into God’s hands and I found that I was no longer seeking Him for healing.

One morning while walking, the Lord instructed me to write a blog about self-pity and how I have allowed it to affect me. To be honest, I really did not want to write about this issue. I did not want to face the fact that I have been using self-pity to get attention from those around me. However, I know to be free from this, I must face it. Healing process begins when we face our issues head on and allow God to work on it with us. After reflecting on my own behavior, I have realized that other people may be struggling with this issue as well. Hopefully, by writing this blog healing can began to take place in the lives of those who read it.

Sincerely speaking, I have always been an attention seeker. In fact, in the past, it has lead me into a lot of pain. However, the good news is, through Christ, I am learning how to seek attention from God instead of others. I do not want any behavior in my life that will cause me to stop looking up to Jesus. When it comes to my GI issues, the pain and discomfort I’m having is undeniable, but that is no excuse to sit around feeling sorry for myself. I often tell my son that just because a person is a child of God does not exempt them from trials in life. Life is just life. We live in a fallen world and bad things happen to good people. Sickness and disease are a part of the world we live in. But thank God, “Jesus has overcome the world. All the trials and tribulations will not overcome God’s people.” (John 16:33). So, no matter how difficult of a situation we may face in life, we have everything we need, as children of God, to overcome it.

We need to focus on God and not people. Our focus should always be placed on Jesus because He is the only one who can get us through our tough times. I’m not saying we shouldn’t enjoy attention given to us by others, but we should be aware of our motives. We have a problem if we find ourselves seeking others attention and approval more than God’s. God can give us all the attention we need. In fact, as his children, we already have his approval. He loves us very much!

If you are in a situation where you feel like no one pays attention to you and you are feeling left out, let me encourage you to turn to Jesus. Deuteronomy 31:6 tells us that “God will never leave us or nor forsake us”. When other people leave us, and turn their backs on us, we shouldn’t worry or walk in self-pity. God is always with us.

I know that I will never completely overcome self-pity, but exposing it as a weakness in my life is allowing God to transform me. I pray that anyone dealing with this type of weakness or any other weakness, will commit it into the hands of our great Physician, Jehovah Rapha. He is our healer! (Exodus 15:6). Let him heal you and set you free so you can live in freedom in Jesus name, Amen.


Stay blessed and keep the faith!

Nuku Nwajei

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